Jo Adams – the "crazy woman" who dances to Daft Punk during a Pandemic
Is home for you a place or a feeling? And can you describe that a little bit?
That's a very interesting question for me right now because I just moved into my first home that I actually purchased. It's the first time I think that home is a place. Otherwise, I would have always said feeling - that it's more so comfort and connecting with people that I love and that make me feel good.
But I'm going to be really honest and say, at this precise time, it's this place. And I think it's because it's the first time I've lived in a place where I've really felt a connection because it's mine. And I build it, I put myself into it. It's actually really fun to populate it with things that have meaning and that make me feel cozy and comfy. You know, because we've all been at home for so long, I feel I really actually needed to have home be where I could have a little refuge, wear my comfy pants, and feel safe.
Is there anything that scares or intimidates you about the idea of post pandemic life?
Oh gosh. So much. I was reading an article the other day about people who are just going to carry on wearing their masks. Particularly women, actually. Just because of the feeling of protection – and not just from the virus – but generally. It's like a little safe space right behind your mask. You get fewer catcalls from guys looking. Your emotions are slightly hidden, which of course has its negative side, but in some ways can be more comfortable. [Protection from] when people tell you to “cheer up” because you have be smiling in that precise way. I feel that we've already learned to communicate better through our eyes as well. You have to really pay attention to someone. So, I actually have come to not mind wearing the mask. And actually, I've just been vaccinated and I've started to think about what to do when I'm outside, when do I need to wear it and while it's nice to be able to breathe the fresh air, it does feel weird! So I think this is going to be a process of readjustment to this whole thing of being “exposed” again.
In terms of socially… It's a process there too, isn't it? I mean, we're all used to being in full comfort mode and suddenly things are opening up and there's invitations coming again.
I feel very privileged that a lot of people here have been vaccinated here in San Francisco. So, I don't feel unsafe. I just don't know how good I am at small talk anymore and meeting random people. I'm like... I haven't really done much in the last year. It's not like I've been anywhere exciting to tell a new person abou. I think there's an anxiety around all of these things. We were forced into a zone where we had to make our own comfort and we found some comfortability in not having all the social pressure and now, well now it's coming back, and I guess we have to just navigate and take it easy. I
What art medium resonates most with you?
I used to love going to art galleries. Not talking to anyone and just sitting there, hanging out. It's the space and the silence and the kind of reverence for something.
So at Well + kind, we really value our senses and how we can harness energy and power from smell, in particular. So I'm wondering, do you have a favorite sense that you find is most important to your mental wellbeing?
It’s probably sight for me. I grew up being really into art and painting and drawing. Never really pursued it other than a hobby, but just, you know – colors! I mean, that’s what I love so much about Well + Kind. Maggie’s amazing color sensibilities I really resonate with and how a color can change your mood and uplift you or make you feel more relaxed or more outgoing. Well + Kind is actually taking me on a little bit of a journey around senses. I actually just got the Essential Oil sample that you guys sent out and when I'm feeling fed up, I actually just put a little bit on that stone. I'd never used scent in that way, but it’s really helpful. And I think part of it is – it's not just the smell, which is lovely – it's the fact that I know there's all you lot behind it.
Do you find that your self-care practices differ between days where you're in a good mood and headspace and days where you're not?
I think on the days when I most need it, when I'm in a funk for whatever reason, are the days when I have to most force myself. I can't be bothered to even run a bubble bath or wash my hair. When I'm having a good day, self-care is probably wrapped up in what I'm doing anyway, because I’m probably with people who I have a really strong connection with, and that in itself is self-care, right? So, I think self-care generally is about finding times to let yourself switch your brain off.
How do you define beauty?
Really whatever you want, whatever makes a person feel like their best, most glowing self. You can tell when someone feels beautiful because it exudes as confidence and as a certain walk, and a certain feeling of comfort.
I’m doing a beauty study now, where I'm basically talking to young young guys who love makeup and love cosmetics. I thought it was going to be quite hard to find them. And it's not! It's not all guys, doing a fabulous pose. There's some, you know, who want to cover up a little bit, or enhance my eyes on a zoom call. And I'm like, cool, finally, great. I like the idea that beauty is whatever you want it to be, and as long as you feel comfortable, you're going to look good and radiate.
What about your personality or passions connects you most with the Well + Kind community?
I think it's the feeling of just generalized empathy and kind of kindness. I honestly don't think I've been part of a group like this – which is kind of sad. I feel like I should have always had this. And of course with my friends we have these kinds of conversations, but his is a bunch of women I've never physically met apart, and yet we have these wonderful sessions with women who are creative and interesting and all very diverse. Everyone listens to each other. In work, we’re often not listened to
What is your favorite non-sexual physical sensation?
Walking on a beach with no shoes and the water first hits you.
So our last question is, what music are you listening to these days?
Well, funnily enough,I'm usually pretty old school and I've literally got a playlist that I made 10 years ago. It's just my old school hits from the early nineties. There’s quite a lot of dance music on it. I quite like daft punk. I thought I might have grown out of it for a while, but I think because we haven't been dancing in so long, I just like dance on my walk to the gym. I’m sure people are like, “Oh, it’s that crazy lady.”
A friend of mine said today, “Oh are we ever going to go dancing again?” I'm like, just come ‘round to my house.